I am a Pilot... With this profession you are molded into being a problem solver. So invariably when chaos breaks out I am driven into the mode of "Ok we have a problem here. What are the causes and what are the potential fixes? I can fix this I just have to think logically." I do this in a very calm manner. However, it is done with such a sense of urgency that you would think that my airplane is on fire.
Unfortunately people are much different than machines or business processes. They have their own motivations, desires, and the ability to react to your newly implemented and profound fixes. I for one struggle with dealing with unanticipated outcomes. I am not always able to grasp the realization that my desires may not align with those of another.
I think that you try your hardest. You must however, accept some things as not fixable. We must pick a point where we realize that anymore effort exerted is just wasted and conserve that energy for something that will yield positive results. Results worthy of our efforts......
Your thoughts?
ReplyDeleteAre you sure we're not twins? Did mom and dad raise us to be little problem solvers, or what? Just the other day I stopped myself in "fix mode" and said to the person who I thought needed help, "It is my nature to try to help you if I care about you and I feel like you're not perfectly happy. But I recognize that I probably can't do anything about your bad mood. Know that I care about you, because I'm going to try to stop fixing this now." You're totally right big brother, it's important to recognize when the effort would be better saved for another time. Shame it's so hard to do when it's someone you care about and when their happiness affects yours a little.
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